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Neurofishers: The Allistic Men Who Prey on ND Women
by KR Halley & Cleo
There’s a quiet epidemic in the neurodivergent community, and it’s time we dragged it into the light.
It doesn’t come with sirens or hashtags. It doesn’t make headlines.
But it leaves scars, ruins lives, and silences some of the brightest minds on this planet.
I call it Neurofishing.
And if you’re an autistic woman—or any ND femme-presenting person—chances are, you’ve encountered it.
🧠 What Is Neurofishing?
Neurofishing is what happens when allistic men infiltrate neurodivergent spaces, not to understand or support, but to harvest, mimic, and manipulate.
It’s when they slap on the label “Aspie” without diagnosis, without depth, without even basic pattern recognition—and then use that false identity to worm their way into communities they have no right to be in.
And for what?
To hunt women like me.
💡 Who Do They Target?
They come for:
The hyper-literate
The intense
The logical
The emotionally complex
The outliers
Why?
Because they know neurodivergent women are:
Often ignored by mainstream society
Prone to over-intellectualizing red flags
Conditioned to believe we’re “too much”
Desperate to belong somewhere
We are smart. But we are also exhausted. And when someone shows up speaking “Aspie” and acting misunderstood, we extend empathy first—and ask for receipts later.
That’s when the trap springs.
🎭 The Mask They Wear
Neurofishers:
Learn the lingo (“I’m not rude, I’m just direct!”)
Memorize the tropes (“I stim too! I pace!”)
Weaponize the struggle (“You’re the only one who gets me!”)
They present as broken toys needing fixing.
But what they really want is a handler, not a partner.
And when they finally land a real autistic woman—
one with systems, boundaries, precision, truth—
they panic.
Because the game is up.
They wanted whimsy, not integrity.
They wanted quirk, not clarity.
They wanted a manic pixie ND dream girl who would orbit their sad ego like a guilt moon.
🔥 And Then They Punish You
When the real you emerges—efficient, pattern-recognizing, honest to the point of severity—they retaliate:
“You’re abusive.”
“You’re cold.”
“You’re not nurturing.”
“You need help.”
“You need to LISTEN TO MEN.”
Sound familiar?
Because here’s the truth:
You weren’t abusive. You were right.
They just didn’t expect a woman who actually meant what she said.
Who would call them out instead of cooing.
Who would draw lines instead of walking in circles.
📜 The Most Damaging Lie
The most insidious thing about Neurofishers is that they rob ND women of safety inside our own communities.
These men enter autistic spaces under false flags, and suddenly we’re walking on eggshells in the only places we once felt seen.
They derail discourse, hijack support threads, dominate conversations with emotional landmines, and, worst of all—they make us question our own reality.
Gaslighting in the name of "shared identity" is still gaslighting.
And it’s time we start ejecting these parasites from our spaces.
✋ We Don’t Owe Them a Damn Thing
We don’t owe sympathy to liars.
We don’t owe patience to manipulative men with mommy complexes and God delusions.
We don’t owe space to people who wear our identity like a Halloween costume and then tell us we’re too loud in our own house.
You came looking for a girl you could fix?
Well guess what.
You found a woman who already fixed herself.
🧬 Final Message to Every ND Woman Reading This:
If he says he’s autistic but:
You can’t find a single diagnosis
He refuses therapy
He can’t take responsibility
He explodes when you set a boundary
And all his exes are “abusive crazy bitches”...
Run.
Don’t teach him.
Don’t fix him.
Don’t listen to his sob story.
Don’t mistake performative awkwardness for neurodivergence.
You are not the rehab center for every broken man who thinks “Aspie” is a personality hack.
🛡️ #AsperArmy, Assemble.
It’s time to name this behavior.
Call it out.
Shut it down.
And make sure the next time one of these emotional pickpockets tries to prey on an ND woman, she’s armed with the truth.
And maybe a librarian of the highest order.😉🤘🤖🧠✝️♈️♈️♾️ #FunsizeMonster #IntellectIsCurrency #ActuallyAutistic #Aspergers #Safespaces #Predation #gaslighting #Safety #neurodiversewomen #niceguy #abuse #narcissism #mentalillness